Ashley delivered a baby surro girl in January 2021. Ashley met her Intended Fathers through Circle Surrogacy
Q: What was the process you went through before selecting your surrogacy agency?
A: I wanted an agency that was LGBTQ+ friendly, and I wanted an agency that kept it straight (i.e., was not offering crazy high compensation numbers when I knew that the average compensation near me is between 30k-65k). I landed on two agencies: Circle and another. I reached out to both and had conversations with each about their process. I just enjoyed the discussion more with Circle. The women I talked to there were so helpful and sweet. Most of them had also been surrogates themselves, and that felt very comforting. I also like how Circle at the time had delivered 2,000 surrogate babies and seemed to understand both ends of the process. Circle checked all my boxes and more.
Q: I’m very sorry to hear about the passing of your mother in March 2020. How was your surrogacy journey without her?
A: My mother and I were very close. She was in the room for the birth of both of my children. It was an unforgettable experience I got to have with her. Not having her around during my surrogacy journey was challenging. My whole surrogacy journey was, in a way, an honor to the woman my mother and father built me to be. My friends and family knew how proud my mother would be of me and mentioned it a couple times in a few comments. I know this journey honored her, and I know she’d be smiling.
Q: Do you think you’ll want to be a surrogate again? Is there anything that you would do differently this time?
A: I keep going back and forth on this. On one hand, pregnancy is so hard on the body and I’ve already done it 3 times. Also, I have no idea where I’ll be in a few months and I want to stay focused on my career, which is hard when you are emotionally and physically drained from carrying a baby. Finally, I want to get some cosmetic surgery done, and once I do that, surrogacy/pregnancy is off the table.
On the other hand, I love being pregnant! And I loved watching my two IFs become dads. Watching them get their baby and seeing their love spread over her and each other was incredible.
If I were to do another surrogacy journey the only thing I would change is how I document my process. I enjoyed recording it, but I felt I could’ve done more and made it look nicer. I loved the community I found and love how my videos have reached English, Spanish and Italian speakers.