Bryan and Vicki
From the beginning of our relationship, we knew that we wanted children, which was one of the many things that brought us together. I (Vicki) knew that I might have difficulties conceiving and Bryan was supportive of me from the beginning. We tried many medicated and intrauterine insemination (IUI) cycles, facing heartbreak after heartbreak. After discussing our situation with our doctors, we were informed that we wouldn’t be successful with IVF. We then turned to the amazing gift of donated embryos. Due to the waitlist in Canada being over 3 years, after much searching, we found a clinic in California, and we adopted one embryo in 2021 with so much hope and love. We transferred that precious embryo but faced another negative pregnancy test. We adopted a second embryo and tried for 9 months to do a second transfer, but to our great sorrow, our cycles kept getting cancelled due to uterine lining issues. Our doctor then informed us that the only path forward for this embryo, that we had fallen in love with, would be a gestational surrogate, and so that is why we are looking for you.
We love to go on walks exploring our great city, playing board games (Vicki usually wins), baking with various degrees of success, traveling, and hanging out with friends and family. One of our goals is to visit every province in this beautiful country. We can’t wait to share all these experiences with our child and to see life through their eyes. I (Bryan) love to go to football games and repair computers for charities and families in need. I also regularly groan at Vicki’s puns. I (Vicki) love to build Lego creations and read (Harry Potter nerd).
- Names: Bryan & Vicki
- Location: Ottawa, Ontario, Canada
- Number of embryos: 1 adopted embryo (able to get more)
- Agency: Canada: Surrogacy in Canada Online; USA: not yet
- Fertility Clinic: HRC Fertility Newport Beach
- What kind of relationship do you envision with your surrogate: Open relationship hopefully developing naturally with lots of communication
- Surrogate Compensation: High 35,000-$45,000 range
- Due to our embryo being adopted with no genetic connection to us, in Canada – we need someone in the provinces of Ontario, British Columbia, Manitoba, or Saskatchewan. In the US – we would need someone in the states of Maine, New Hampshire, Massachusetts, New Jersey, Delaware, Pennsylvania, Maryland, Ohio, DC, or California.
The Biggest Ask Says
The American Society for Reproductive Medicine provides the following recommendations for evaluation of gestational carriers (i.e., many fertility clinics will require the following for their gestational carriers) :
- Carried at least 1 child without complications
- Fewer than 3 deliveries via c-section
- Body mass index in between 19 and 32
- No smoking, abusing drugs, alcohol or prescription medications
- Not receiving welfare, public housing or cash assistance from the government
- Has a stable home life with emotional and child care support
- No mental health conditions requiring the use of medications within the last 6 months (including depression)
- No criminal record
No one likes to talk about surrogate compensation, but it is an important factor in any surrogacy agreement. The following is how we classify high, medium and low compensation (excluding the value of any benefits). Many factors affect surrogate compensation including surrogate experience (e.g., has the woman been a surrogate before?), whether the surrogate is signed up with an agency and surrogate preferences.
- Low = surrogate compensation less than $20,000
- Medium = surrogate compensation between $20,000 and $40,000
- High = surrogate compensation greater than $40,000
You can learn more about how much surrogates get paid in our surrogacy guide’s module: “How much does surrogacy cost?”.