Q: Tell us about yourself!
A: My name is Jami and I was born and raised in the Midwest. I have two daughters, Norah (6) and Jolene (3) that keep my life oh so busy, but oh so much fun. For the past 10 years I’ve worked in marketing at a major magazine publishing company. In my free time (what is that?!) I love watching unsolved mystery shows, stand-up comedy specials, and Bluey with my girls.
Q: What made you decide to become a surrogate?
A: I always felt like I was meant to be a mom. While most kids were running around playing tag, I was asking if I could help watch the younger kids. I would joke that I wanted to have 10+ kids. My dream of having my own children was so strong that I remember even from a young age hoping that if I couldn’t have kids of my own that someone would help me. Years later, I created my own family and found I really enjoyed the pregnancy and birthing process. I remember realizing how much my life would be different without my girls and I felt very strongly that I wanted to offer to help someone’s dream of a family come true too!
Q: You just delivered an almost 13 pound surro babe! That is incredible! What was that birthing experience like?
A: The birthing experience was….long! Before birth, I had told myself to go into it with an open mind, but I still found myself daydreaming of my ideal scenario. I wanted to push the baby out and have one of my IPs catch him & be the first to welcome him into the world – & I felt very attached to that idea – however it’s very hard to push a 12.13 lb baby out. After hours of laboring, we decided upon a c-section, I started crying when I saw my IPs because I realized this vision wouldn’t happen – but they were so great! I remember the mom saying, “We’re easy, as long as you and baby are safe, we’re happy!” Luckily, I had an amazing birth team who helped me feel empowered and safe with every step. They also were so accommodating to our situation & let both IPs in the OR room. The birth experience was much different from the one I had envisioned but it was still just as beautiful and wonderful.
Q: How are you feeling postpartum from your first surrogacy journey?
A: This was my first c-section, so the physical recovery was a little different. Fortunately, I had an amazing support system that flocked to help me and my family out. For two weeks, I didn’t have to worry about my meals because food was constantly being dropped off. A caring support system is such a blessing in surrogacy journeys. I know lots of people wonder how surrogates feel emotionally after a journey and honestly, I just felt an overwhelming sense of happiness and excitement for my IPs and their family.
Q: Do you think you will ever become a surrogate again?
A: If I could, I would be a surrogate several more times – however, my medical team has strongly advised me to consider retiring from birth. Long story short, during my c-section, they discovered a thin uterine wall that might be risky in future deliveries. I loved my journey and my experience and know that I want to do more in the surrogacy world to help more families… I just don’t know what exactly that entails yet.