John and Laura

ABOUT US

From John:

2010 was a great year. I was fresh out of college and working a start-up job that ended up being my career and passion. My college Alma-mater won the national championship that year…thank you Cam Newton. I bought my first Border Collie. I harvested a 150” whitetail. It was a good year. But best of all, I met Laura. We fell in love and got married. We actually got married at the courthouse 1 week after we got engaged so I could transfer college tuition money that could only be given to a family member or spouse. She wanted to become a dentist hygienist, and later we had a real wedding in May of 2013. I was 23 and she was 22, long before we ever even considered having children. For the next few years as we were establishing our careers and finishing up college (dental hygiene for her—poultry farming for me) we were waiting for the right time to start our family—completely assuming it would be an easy process. In retrospect, it has not.

From Laura:

When I was 20 years old, a friend of mine invited me to hang out with her and then asked if her friend John could tag along, and of course, I said yes. I didn’t know that I would be meeting my future husband that night. We decided to meet up at Sonic, of all places, so I could ride with them in her car. I remember getting out of my car, looking at John and his pretty blue eyes, and thinking to myself, I am going to marry this man – I even messaged my other friends that night, letting them know this. A year and a half later we were married. I always knew I wanted children and even remember thinking I wanted a big family. I am Mexican and in our culture big families are the norm. In the beginning of our marriage John was getting started in his career and I was still in college studying to become a dental hygienist. Our wedding was in 2013 and I wouldn’t graduate until 2014 so talks of a family weren’t a priority until we were more settled but children were always in both of our plans. We never knew we would spend the majority of our marriage trying to grow our family.

What led us to Surrogacy

We began trying to start our family in 2015. Around this time, Laura learned she was not ovulating at a Dr. visit. She was prescribed meds to help her ovulate, but after 6 months, we still had not conceived. By 2018, we started visiting the fertility clinic. We tried 3 IUI’s (artificial insemination) and all 3 failed. In 2019, we visited AIRM and learned Laura had uterine fibroids, which needed to be surgically removed. During the surgery in January 2020, we learned that Laura had stage 4 endometriosis. They recommended that we try IVF as soon as possible. Because of Covid, this process was briefly delayed, but we eventually became pregnant via IVF with our son John Calvin in May of 2020.

It was a dream come true for us. We found out we were having a boy and named him after my grandfather. Laura’s pregnancy was uneventful and she seemed happier than ever during this time. Then at 28 weeks, Laura’s uterus ruptured resulting in the loss of our son and near-death experience for Laura. It was heart-breaking…it was the kind of thing that makes you question everything. It was a tragedy that will always hurt and one that you simply try to live with.

During this time, Laura physically recovered, but was advised by almost every medical professional we spoke to that she could not carry another child. This was another major let-down. After almost 3 years of pause, we finally felt ready to try again with the plan of surrogacy. In October of this year, we successfully created 2 perfect embryos. The next step is to find the perfect gestational carrier to hopefully help us start our family.

Our Hobbies

Laura: After we lost our son, John built me a greenhouse and a raised bed garden, so now my favorite thing to do is go outside with the dogs and work in my garden. I also love reading and photography.

John: loves to work – so much so that he doesn’t always consider it work. He always has a project he’s working on—also, gamebirds, bird dogs and basketball. 

Collectively—we are active in our church; we have 2 dogs (June- 12-year-old border collie; Shelby- 1-year-old German wire-haired pointer)

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What we want for our future child

First, we want our child to be loved. We wish for him/her to be put into a position to find and choose his/her passion in life and pursue it to his/her fullest. We ultimately wish them happiness and success. We want to teach them that family is important and that you must work hard for what you want and appreciate everything you have.

Extra Information

  • Names: John & Laura

  • Location: Blountsville, Alabama 

  • Number of embryos: 2 PGT embryos

  • Agency/Management Team: The Biggest Ask

  • Fertility Clinic: Innovative Fertility Specialists

The Biggest Ask Says

The American Society for Reproductive Medicine provides the following recommendations for evaluation of gestational carriers (i.e., many fertility clinics will require the following for their gestational carriers):

  • Carried at least 1 child without complications
  • Fewer than 3 deliveries via c-section
  • Be within the ages of 21 and 45
  • Body mass index in between 19 and 32
  • No smoking, abusing drugs, alcohol or prescription medications
  • Not receiving welfare, public housing or cash assistance from the government
  • Has a stable home life with emotional and child care support
  • No mental health conditions requiring the use of medications within the last 6 months (including depression)
  • No criminal record

Watch the following video to review the Medical and Psychological Clearance procedures that surrogates must complete.

No one likes to talk about surrogate compensation, but it is an important factor in any surrogacy agreement. The following is how we classify high, medium and low compensation (excluding the value of any benefits). Many factors affect surrogate compensation including surrogate experience (e.g., has the woman been a surrogate before?), whether the surrogate is signed up with an agency and surrogate preferences.

  • Low = surrogate compensation less than $30,000
  • Medium = surrogate compensation between $30,000 and $45,000
  • High = surrogate compensation greater than $45,000

You can learn more about how much surrogates get paid in our surrogacy guide’s module: “How much does surrogacy cost?”.

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