Hello! From the moment we were married in November 2019, we’ve wanted to add a little one (and ideally, two!) to our family, and take on the joys and responsibilities of parenthood. Unfortunately, for the past 3 years, we have struggled with infertility. Despite being hopeful, positive people, this has been one of the most challenging periods of our lives. The waiting, costs, fertility drugs, uncertainty, and disappointments have taken a toll. After failed rounds of IUI, multiple rounds of IVF, failed transfers, and an autoimmune disease we’ve felt heartbroken and hopeless. But we are not giving up. After talking it over with several professionals, we’ve made the very personal decision to pursue the surrogacy option. We still have two healthy embryos from earlier IVF rounds, and so while this decision was not an easy one, we believe surrogacy is the best option for us to have biological children. We’re choosing to do an independent surrogacy rather than go through an agency, both because it’s more affordable (we’ve already spent a small fortune trying to grow our family as our health insurance hasn’t covered any of our infertility treatments) and because we’d like to build a warm and caring personal relationship with the surrogate.

We’re asking you, or anyone you know, if you’d be interested in being our gestational carrier. Ideally, we’d love this amazing woman to be in the San Diego area so we can be connected with her during the pregnancy. We know this is a huge ask, and it’s uncomfortable to ask for this kind of help, but the discomfort we feel is nothing compared to the joy we’d receive from finding someone to carry our child. If you know someone who might be interested or have a friend who was previously a surrogate, please let us know or have them connect with us directly via social media.