First, we want to say thank you for considering to do this for others. It truly takes a special person to embark on a journey like surrogacy.
Brian and I were married for less than 2 years when I started bleeding and passing clots most weeks of the month without a discernible period. We were hoping to start our family in the coming months, but after a trip to the gynecologist and two biopsies later, I was diagnosed with endometrial cancer in the fall of 2011. The oncologist placed me on hormone therapy in the form of an IUD and oral medications to try to normalize my uterine lining to allow me to get pregnant via IVF and plan for a hysterectomy immediately after the birth of our future baby. After 9 months of hormones, a biopsy revealed that not only was my cancer not going away, it was actually getting worse, and was more aggressive than expected.
In the summer of 2012, our dream of me carrying our miracle baby was shattered. Time had run out, and a hysterectomy became urgent. In August of 2012, I had a robotic hysterectomy, omentectomy, and 25 lymph nodes from my abdomen and pelvis removed. As I was recovering from surgery, the pathology came back that cancer had spread to a lymph node in my abdomen. Starting immediately I had 6 months of chemotherapy, followed by 6 weeks of radiation which concluded in March 2013.
Due to the aggressiveness of the cancer, Brian and I chose to wait to ensure my long term health before thinking about creating a family. I am very blessed to say that I have been cancer free for over 8 years now!
Our dreams of parenthood came true when our first gestational carrier gave birth to our daughter in 2021. The experience was incredible and I was able to help catch our daughter as she was born. This moment was the best moment of our entire lives. We would like to give our daughter the gift of a sibling and are ready to embark on another journey.
We love spending time in nature, at the beach, in the mountains, and hiking. We vacation several times a year and at least one trip involves us spending a week by the ocean. While we love travel, we also enjoy being home and you can always find one of us in the kitchen whipping up a snack, or trying a new recipe.
- Names: Kristin & Brian
- Location: Northern New Jersey
- Number of embryos: 2
- Agency: N/A
- Surrogate Compensation: Medium (between $20,000 and $35,000)
- fewer than 2 c-sections
- Must have COVID-19 vaccine prior to medical screening
The Biggest Ask Says
The American Society for Reproductive Medicine provides the following recommendations for evaluation of gestational carriers (i.e., many fertility clinics will require the following for their gestational carriers) :
- Carried at least 1 child without complications
- Fewer than 3 deliveries via c-section
- Body mass index in between 19 and 32
- No smoking, abusing drugs, alcohol or prescription medications
- Not receiving welfare, public housing or cash assistance from the government
- Has a stable home life with emotional and child care support
- No mental health conditions requiring the use of medications within the last 6 months (including depression)
- No criminal record
No one likes to talk about surrogate compensation, but it is an important factor in any surrogacy agreement. The following is how we classify high, medium and low compensation (excluding the value of any benefits). Many factors affect surrogate compensation including surrogate experience (e.g., has the woman been a surrogate before?), whether the surrogate is signed up with an agency and surrogate preferences.
- Low = surrogate compensation less than $20,000
- Medium = surrogate compensation between $20,000 and $40,000
- High = surrogate compensation greater than $40,000