Q: Tell us about yourself & what led you to surrogacy!
A: I am an overly proud mother to my 11 year old daughter, Kya & 13 year old stepdaughter, Brooklynn. I got engaged 5 days before my first surro babe was born in Feb 2021 – & of course, I couldn’t help but make a joke during the proposal that the baby wasn’t his. We will be married on our 10 year anniversary in 2023. I work in the beauty industry with a background in aerospace. If I’m not at home with my pets building Lego or doing puzzles, you can find me at the softball field or martial arts studio nearby. I will be 35 in December & have wanted to be a surrogate since I was about 18 years old. My parents have very close friends that could never have children and back then I always thought “I wish I could carry for them.” I had no idea that surrogacy was even a thing! That feeling really stuck with me all this time, so once my daughter was a little older, I knew I had to do it. My love language is acts of service, after all.
Q: You are currently pregnant with your second surro babe! That is amazing! What do you feel were the biggest differences between your two journeys?
A: The first journey I really learned so much. I am an independent surrogate so my IM and I really did all the work ourselves.
This time around I feel like I was really able to advocate for my IFs (& at times it seemed like I had to “drag” the clinic along as well). I feel so empowered & passionate from the knowledge I have gained as a GC.
Q: What are your relationships like with your past IPs and your current IPs?
A: Unfortunately, I am no longer in contact with my former IPs but I wish them the best. We cut ties after a failed sibling journey. It happens sometimes and that’s ok. I talk about it openly and think it’s something that should definitely be discussed more.
To put it simply: my current IFs are wonderful. Their excitement and enthusiasm rubs off on me. I love how they’ve celebrated this surro babe so much before they have even arrived. They even let me help pick out the nursery paint & curtains. I am beyond excited to see them become parents.
Q: What is one thing you'd tell someone considering becoming a surrogate?
A: Easily the best thing I’ve done with my life. Besides being a mother, it is the thing I am most proud of & everyone knows because I don’t shut up about it! Some people search their whole lives for purpose and meaning. Knowing I found mine leaves me beyond fulfilled and ready for whatever comes next.
Q: What are your favorite and least favorite parts of a surrogacy journey?
A: Favorites: The relationships and bonds I have built over the last 3 years. Not just with the IPs but with other surrogates. It’s truly a beautiful community.
Least: The TWW(two week wait) and heartbeat appointment. The anticipation is so stressful. You want everything to be perfect for the IPs as they’ve already been through so much. You can do everything by the book but as I always say: Science only goes so far!
Forever sending baby dust to anyone who needs it!