Tania Strickland

Our Story

My husband and I have been together for 11 years now, married for 6. We started our journey for a child almost immediately. I have done many IVF treatments (double digits) for egg retrievals in order to create embryos, and I believe 9 transfers. At first we didn't test the embryos, and we had several chemical pregnancies. When we started testing, we learned we weren't producing normal embryos. We moved on to our first batch of donor eggs from a frozen bank. We were unlucky there and only created two embryos. Both implanted, and both again were chemical pregnancies. We moved on to a second fresh donor, and produced 8 normal embryos. We learned that I had endometriosis. I had a laparoscopy in 2019. Then covid hit, and we had to put everything on hold for several months. I did full immune testing and found that my body attacks the embryos and I also have APS, a blood clotting disorder that also affects pregnancies. We tried "kitchen sink" protocols adding all kinds of medications to try and fool my immune system, which caused me to lose my hair among other things - it was all worth it and we remained hopeful. Unfortunately, we had several more chemical pregnancies (6 in total) and one devastating MMC in late 2021. We thought that was going to be our baby girl, and after graduating our clinic a few days later at my first MFM appointment, I learned there was no heartbeat. We have had 7 losses using our own eggs and two donors. We tried one more transfer as we put ourselves on a surrogate waiting list with worldwide, and that one completely failed, my only fail of a 5 day transfer (I suspect endometriosis came back and it is also possible I may have adenomyosis as well). We waited a year nd finally found a wonderful surrogate match who was approved by our RE. That transfer unfortunately failed as well, and our RE then recommended we break the match, which was devastating again to all of us. Our surro had two previous failed transfers and this being the third for a second family, he strongly recommended moving on. We have two healthy embryos left. The rematch wait at our agency is at least 8 months, and we are hoping we might find someone on here that our story speaks too and who would be willing to work with our agency and ready to start much sooner. My husband and I are getting a bit older (I turn 48 this year) and we are really worried time is running out for us. We really so would love to have a family of our own and are grateful for anyone considering becoming a surrogate and helping people grow their families.

Our Interests

We have two Bernese Mountain dogs, and love them SO much. They are the gentlest giants, and think they are lap dogs. We love taking them on walks and adventures around our town. We do love to travel as well. We try to visit Florida at least once a year. Our favorite trip was to South America, visiting Brazil and Argentina. Seeing Patagonia was a once in a life time experience. My husband is learning to build things, so during covid he built us a garden. We love to try and outwit the groundhog that tries to steal our crops :) I love birds and enjoy watching them come to the feeders in our yard. That has also rubbed off on my husband a bit. During covid I, lie many others, picked up baking sourdough. We also like to cook.

Additional surrogate requirements that may vary from the ASRM guidelines

Age between 21 and 44 Must have had 1 successful live birth with no complications within the last 10 years No more than 6 total deliveries Must wait 6 months after a vaginal delivery before having an embyro transfer (9 months after multiples and/or c sections for singleton delivery, must have delivered no less than 34 weeks gestation (no less than 33 weeks for twin delivery) will not accept candidates who have had the Essure a medical clearance letter from OBGYN is required We would prefer an experienced surrogate, with surrogate friendly insurance, and covid vaccinated if possible but willing to consider other candidates as well for the right match

Extra Information

  • Names: Tania Strickland
  • Instagram Handle: @tmkowala
  • Location: Fairfield CT
  • Number of embryos: 2
  • Agency: Worldwide Surrogacy
  • Fertility Clinic: New England Fertility Institute (NEFI)
  • Surrogate Communication: as much as the surrogate is comfortable with
  • Surrogate Compensation: High is experienced GC $40,000-$50,000

The Biggest Ask Says

The American Society for Reproductive Medicine provides the following recommendations for evaluation of gestational carriers (i.e., many fertility clinics will require the following for their gestational carriers) :

  • Carried at least 1 child without complications
  • Fewer than 3 deliveries via c-section 
  • Body mass index in between 19 and 32
  • No smoking, abusing drugs, alcohol or prescription medications
  • Not receiving welfare, public housing or cash assistance from the government
  • Has a stable home life with emotional and child care support
  • No mental health conditions requiring the use of medications within the last 6 months (including depression)
  • No criminal record
Watch the following video to review the Medical and Psychological Clearance procedures that surrogates must complete.

No one likes to talk about surrogate compensation, but it is an important factor in any surrogacy agreement. The following is how we classify high, medium and low compensation (excluding the value of any benefits). Many factors affect surrogate compensation including surrogate experience (e.g., has the woman been a surrogate before?), whether the surrogate is signed up with an agency and surrogate preferences.

  • Low = surrogate compensation less than $20,000
  • Medium = surrogate compensation between $20,000 and $40,000
  • High = surrogate compensation greater than $40,000

You can learn more about how much surrogates get paid in our surrogacy guide’s module: “How much does surrogacy cost?”.

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