The road to parenthood has been challenging. It took ~2 years to conceive our miracle baby (now 2 1/2 years old) thanks to huge and plentiful uterine fibroids/scar tissue, and we would be so very grateful to have a second miracle!
For our first (and only) baby, my water broke at 26 weeks on the other side of the country. We live in California, and he was born in Maryland, as we were traveling for our family baby shower, at 29 weeks. He spent 2 months in the NICU at Johns Hopkins Hospital – we were fortunate to be near such a tremendous hospital.
Due to the trauma to the uterus, and the extremely high risk to myself or a future child, I am no longer able to carry. Which is where you come in! Please consider our family, we can’t thank you enough 😊
Mami’s: traveling, spending time with loved ones, trying new foods/restaurants, home decor, photography, art, film, pop culture, the beach, and most of all, my family.
Dada’s: sports, running, going to the beach, reading, kickboxing
Shared: Sebastiàn (our 2 1/2 year old), music, traveling, our puppy Riggo, cooking, going to the beach, New York City (where we lived for nearly 10 years), Game of Thrones, skiing, & growing our family!
- Names: Tanya Maldonado Toomey & Michael Toomey
- Location: Redondo Beach, CA
- Number of embryos: 9
- Agency: We are still looking for an agency
- Surrogate Compensation: High ($35,000-45,000)
- Between 21-39 years old
- BMI: 18.5-30 (cut off is 30)
- Number of total deliveries: No more than 5 previous deliveries
- Number of c-sections: No more than 3 previous c-sections
- Should be in overall good health, no major health issues
- Pregnancies should have been mostly uncomplicated and full term
The Biggest Ask Says
The American Society for Reproductive Medicine provides the following recommendations for evaluation of gestational carriers (i.e., many fertility clinics will require the following for their gestational carriers) :
- Carried at least 1 child without complications
- Fewer than 3 deliveries via c-section
- Body mass index in between 19 and 32
- No smoking, abusing drugs, alcohol or prescription medications
- Not receiving welfare, public housing or cash assistance from the government
- Has a stable home life with emotional and child care support
- No mental health conditions requiring the use of medications within the last 6 months (including depression)
- No criminal record
No one likes to talk about surrogate compensation, but it is an important factor in any surrogacy agreement. The following is how we classify high, medium and low compensation (excluding the value of any benefits). Many factors affect surrogate compensation including surrogate experience (e.g., has the woman been a surrogate before?), whether the surrogate is signed up with an agency and surrogate preferences.
- Low = surrogate compensation less than $20,000
- Medium = surrogate compensation between $20,000 and $40,000
- High = surrogate compensation greater than $40,000