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The Biggest Ask Forums For Intended Parents Finding a surrogate

  • Finding a surrogate

    Posted by Dave on March 24, 2023 at 1:36 am

    We’ve been looking all over to find a surrogate and we always seem to strike out. Plenty of people have offered to carry but we don’t have eggs or embryos. It is emotionally tiring/frustrating.

    MaryJane replied 1 year, 2 months ago 2 Members · 1 Reply
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  • MaryJane

    Administrator
    March 24, 2023 at 1:40 pm

    hi @Dave yes – surrogacy can be extremely emotionally draining. But it is common to start searching for surrogates only after creating embryos. That is because it can sometimes take years to create high quality embryos and from the surrogate’s perspective, she is just waiting on the sidelines. Since life can change and there is an age limit to pregnancy, the overall norm in the industry is to search for a surrogate once you have high quality embryos.

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