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The Biggest Ask Forums For Surrogates Holiday Gifts

  • Holiday Gifts

    Posted by Jill on November 21, 2022 at 7:59 pm

    With the holidays coming up fast I thought it would be great to have a list of gift ideas for IPs! Ips please comment ideas and if you would like/dislike as well!

    Things on my idea list are: embryo painting, embryo ornament, heartbeat painting, the light/vibrate band to push when baby is moving alot/kicking. Heartbeat bear. What else?!

    Jill replied 1 year, 5 months ago 5 Members · 5 Replies
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  • MJC

    Administrator
    November 21, 2022 at 10:56 pm

    @Jill You are so sweet! You already mentioned the gift I was going to suggest – the bond bracelet! I am wearing mine now and I absolutely love it. I think it will really help with bonding with our baby. So far, my fave thing ever. The only other thing I would consider is the belly buds, where the intended parents can send you recordings of their voice and you can play for baby, but honestly I like the bond bracelet more!

  • Aostoff

    Moderator
    November 22, 2022 at 2:10 am

    @jill I loveeee all your ideas! Some to add: jewelry (mama or dad necklace/bracelets), framed ultrasound photos, baby clothes or blankets (maybe even personalized), rainbow stuff! <3

  • kiwi

    Member
    November 22, 2022 at 9:46 pm

    I am here for these ideas. Everything listed is on my mind for when the time comes, however I am not pregnant. Last Christmas I sent them my favourite holiday tea and matching mugs to enjoy. This year I haven’t quite figured it out… I’m hoping to be in town for transfer just before Christmas so I need to figure it out quickly! Any suggestions for IPs whose surrogate is not yet pregnant?

  • JamiJDeVries

    Member
    November 22, 2022 at 10:48 pm

    You have so many good ideas! Wanted to share a couple gifts I did throughout our journey.

    Framed ultrasound picture that said “love at first sight”

    Big sister bandana for their dog + gender-neutral onesie that said my sibling has paws (they were pet parents)

    Gender-themed outfit after gender reveal — once they found out they were having a boy I got them a onesie that said “boys will be boys(crossed out) smart and sensitive.”

    Other ideas would be goodies from your hometown, a surrogacy journal, a fun print for the nursery (my fave says “We Made a Wish and You Came True”, fun matching t-shirts you could wear at transfer, appointments, or delivery.

  • Jill

    Member
    November 22, 2022 at 11:19 pm

    I like all these ideas! Love the matching shirts, surrogacy journal, and hometown gift ideas! Especially for those who are not yet pregnant.

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