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The Biggest Ask Forums For Surrogates Hysterscopy

  • Hysterscopy

    Posted by KristaG on September 17, 2022 at 11:01 am

    Hello! I had med clearance yesterday and they found what they are calling a band (??) of tissue in my uterus during the saline infusion. They are recommending a hysterscopy before moving forward. Perfectly okay with that but wanted to know am I able to use my own insurance to get this handled if done by my own OB/GYN or no because I have surrogacy exclusion clause in my insurance? Thanks for any help!

    ChelseaB replied 1 year, 2 months ago 3 Members · 2 Replies
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  • KristinC

    September 17, 2022 at 1:43 pm

    I was able to use my insurance for a Hysteroscopy I had before embryo transfer of my first surrogacy journey. I used my OBGYN for the procedure.I was able to use my insurance for a Hysteroscopy I had before embryo transfer of my first surrogacy journey. I used my OBGYN for the procedure. My insurance does allow for surrogacy though. I would think because your Ob would be doing the procedure it could be billed since it isn’t in regards to you actually carrying a baby yet for surrogacy, so the exclusion should not be an issue. Hope this is somewhat helpful.

  • ChelseaB

    September 20, 2022 at 5:45 pm

    I had a hysteroscopy done at the fertility clinic and it was included in their fees… you may want to check on that first instead of having to use your own ins if you have to pay a copay, etc. unless the IP’s want to just pay that.

    Hope that makes sense and is somewhat helpful!

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