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The Biggest Ask Forums For Surrogates Match Meeting

  • Match Meeting

    Posted by Aostoff on June 29, 2022 at 4:19 pm

    What are some important questions you asked during your match call? I’m creating a list for my next match meeting and I don’t want to miss anything important!

    Aostoff replied 1 year, 9 months ago 3 Members · 4 Replies
  • 4 Replies
  • Tandy

    June 29, 2022 at 4:49 pm

    I think a big one (especially right now) is making sure you and the potential IPs are on the same page re: selective reduction, number of transfers, what happens in the event of an ectopic (or anything else that would cause the pregnancy to be nonviable). It’s not fun to talk about, but so important to discuss, especially now in specific states.

    • Aostoff

      June 29, 2022 at 5:14 pm

      I couldn’t agree more! That is definitely a big one on my list!

  • surrolife

    June 30, 2022 at 1:03 pm

    I also want to mention you should ask how much communication they are wanting and the type of relationship they want. I almost just broke my match because it was going weeks without responses from my IP and I need more than that. I want to build a relationship. Not everyone is on the same page when it comes to that.

    • Aostoff

      July 1, 2022 at 3:35 pm

      Oh absolutely! Talking about communication expectations is one of my first and most important questions! I definitely want to make sure were on the same page with that! Thanks! 🙂

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