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  • New Journey

    Posted by Devin on November 1, 2022 at 2:45 am

    My journey with my current IP’S is coming to an end. We had 2 embryos and both have been failed transfers/the last one they are calling a miscarriage. I am contemplating a new journey with new IPS bc I dont feel fulfilled or I have done my job. But my concern now is that I don’t have a baby to show and 2 failed transfers… is that a turn off (are we dating🤔), or will anyone even want to match with me? Has anyone been through this?

    MJC replied 3 weeks, 3 days ago 3 Members · 3 Replies
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  • Meagan

    November 1, 2022 at 11:05 pm

    I’m a mom via GC. We worked with an amazing GC who had two failed transfers with a previous couple. The failed transfers were likely due to embryo quality and the clinic cleared her to carry for someone else. We had tested embryos, so all felt comfortable moving forward. Our first transfer failed (with no explanation) so we kept basically the same protocol and the second transfer stuck. Best of luck!

    • Devin

      November 1, 2022 at 11:17 pm

      Thank you so much for your feedback! I’m praying for a similar scenario.

  • MJC

    November 6, 2022 at 1:06 pm

    @Devin So sorry it took me a while to respond! I totally agree with @Meagan – embryo transfers fail all of the time and most of the time it’s because of the quality. That has nothing to do with you and if I were a parent looking for a GC, I would definitely be open to chatting with you.

    But with that said, I would probably ask you if there was anything about the transfer itself that was weird – like what was your lining, how did you respond to the medication, any weird thawing issues with embryos, etc. If something was a bit different about your situation I would ask more questions 🙂 Hope this was helpful! Good luck!