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The Biggest Ask Forums For Surrogates Normal to be nervous about screening ultrasound?

  • Normal to be nervous about screening ultrasound?

    Posted by Ashley on June 29, 2022 at 4:38 pm


    We have (finally!) completed everything else – the *only* item remaining is my screening ultrasound next week. I read that it is pretty unusual to have any major issues come up with this alone, especially if you have no prior history of any issues, have obviously met all of the other screening requirements, etc. Is this generally true? (Obviously it is not well documented!)

    Thank you! πŸ™‚

    MJC replied 1 year, 7 months ago 4 Members · 5 Replies
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  • Tandy

    June 29, 2022 at 4:54 pm

    Totally normal to be nervous! Especially if it’s that final thing to check off your list before officially being medically cleared. The clinic that I worked with said that it’s not super common to find something on the ultrasound if the GC is regularly attending their well-woman checks every year and if nothing had been brought up/diagnosed by their OBGYN previously. Fingers crossed for you! Good luck! πŸ™‚

  • Aostoff

    June 29, 2022 at 5:17 pm

    Hi Ashley! I totally agree with Tandy – it is SO normal to be nervous! There are a lot of nerve-wracking steps towards surrogacy and I think we all feel that. It is so uncommon for them to find anything alarming at this appointment especially if you have passed everything else! Sending you all the best of luck!

    • Ashley

      July 1, 2022 at 8:42 pm

      Thank you both for your reassurance. I know there is absolutely nothing I can do, so that is probably why it makes me a little anxious. Legal is also now completed, so if everything goes well, we can move right along! I will update next week on how it goes – there is nothing worse than scrolling through a forum and never knowing what happened with the OP! πŸ™‚

  • Ashley

    July 10, 2022 at 4:21 pm

    Thank you! You were both right – everything was just fine, and I will start birth control in about a week! Much more exciting times ahead. πŸ™‚

    • MJC

      July 11, 2022 at 2:34 pm

      Congratulations @Ashley !!! πŸ™‚

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