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  • Paid parental leave for IPs

    Posted by Sara on January 13, 2023 at 12:15 am

    Has anyone successfully negotiated with their employer for more robust paid leave for intended parents? My current company offers 4 weeks paid leave plus using PTO or taking unpaid time up to 12 weeks for an IP or adoptive parent, but 12 weeks fully paid leave to a parent birthing their child. While I don’t expect to receive short term disability (usually 6 of those weeks at 2/3 pay), I’d love to find a way to bridge the gap that feels more fair and inclusive. Any tips to navigating this conversation?

    MJC replied 1 week, 3 days ago 2 Members · 1 Reply
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  • MJC

    January 21, 2023 at 12:42 am

    @Sara i had to restore the website and my answer was deleted so im just typing again in case someone has the same question 🙂

    To anyone in Sara’s position, having a conversation with your HR manager is always a good idea. Come prepared to the meeting perhaps with a competitor who does offer better paid leave benefits than your current employer. I think it makes it easier for the HR person to advocate change to the higher ups. Also, if you have any insight let us know 🙂