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The Biggest Ask Forums For Intended Parents Standard vs. Guaranteed Surrogacy Programs

  • Standard vs. Guaranteed Surrogacy Programs

    Posted by Ole on June 19, 2023 at 3:50 pm

    My husband and I have struggled with infertility for years. When we discovered surrogacy in Ukraine, a glimmer of hope appeared on our horizon.

    But now we are faced with a choice between the Standard vs. Guaranteed Surrogacy Programs offered by IVMed Family Agency in Ukraine, my heart is torn.

    The Standard Program’s affordability and flexibility appeal to our financial situation, but the Guaranteed Program’s promise of a successful outcome brings a sense of security that is hard to resist.

    I contemplate factors like our emotional readiness, the agency’s reputation, success rates, and the level of certainty we long for in this journey. What factors would you take into consideration?

    It’s a weighty decision that will shape our dreams of becoming parents, and I find myself seeking guidance and insights to help us make the right choice.

    Lena46 replied 9 months, 2 weeks ago 3 Members · 2 Replies
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  • MaryJane

    June 19, 2023 at 4:34 pm

    Hi Ole. I understand your predicament. We specialize in surrogacy based in the USA and not internationally. I would be wary between Standard and Guaranteed programs in the USA as well. But the situation is made worse when surrogacy is so far away – like in Ukraine. So that makes it harder for you to assess the situation. I’m sorry we cant be more useful in this decision.

  • Lena46

    August 15, 2023 at 2:43 pm

    Hey Ole. That’s our thoughts exactly! My husband and I also looked into Ukraine, but the agency suggested Cyprus. And now, we are choosing between standard and guaranteed programs. That’s a tough one. Is there any progress with your story? How are you guys?

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