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  • Waiting!

    Posted by Aostoff on August 16, 2022 at 4:32 pm

    What do you do to help you get through all the waiting that surrogacy brings? I am so impatient and the waiting is getting difficult this journey!

    Alycia.K replied 5 months ago 4 Members · 3 Replies
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  • Jade

    August 17, 2022 at 5:45 pm

    I know for myself and our IP’s our faith played a big role in our matching. So as hard as it has been for me, since I have been pretty impatient as well. Is to remind myself that God’s timing is better than ours. And when transfer is supposed to happen it will! I’ve currently been in the “waiting” phase of contracts for almost 2 months. I continue to pray that God gives me peace and knowing that the wait is hard but will be so worth it!

  • Brit

    August 17, 2022 at 6:51 pm

    I think just trying to keep my mind occupied with new hobbies or just to things that I CAN control helps me. We just had our transfer two days ago so we are in the dreaded TWW 🤪 I plan on focusing on my kid’s starting school, & organizing the house while they’re out of my hair lol

  • Alycia.K

    August 31, 2022 at 10:59 am

    I try to make sure I have something fun to look forward to in the mean time. I found that at first I kept putting my life on hold because ‘what if I have an appointment around that time or what if I have med side effects or what if I’m pregnant’ and it made things feel really slow and so much worse because that didn’t happen. So now I just make plans as I want and if I get an appointment then I’ll just cancel or reschedule.