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What can I do for my surrogate during the pregnancy?
Our surrogate’s love language is “Acts of Service”. I’m trying to think of things my husband and I can do for her during the pregnancy. Already thinking about making some food. Any other thoughts?
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Coffee + Rudy’s Flower Truck Delivery!
Help with something on her To-Do List
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@surrogacyofhope They don’t deliver to her area! lol – and how did you know about Rudy’s? 😛 How do I get access to her To-Do list? Great idea tho 🙂
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I saw Rudy’s when I was visiting you! and I know it’s her fav!
Ask her if there is anything you can help her with on her to-do list 🙂
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This can be tricky depending if they are local or not. I love the idea of bringing a meal over or if they aren’t local, maybe sending cookies or some other treat. We had a scare at the end of the first trimester and our surrogate is 4 hours away so I sent her a platter of treats from a local bakery.
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@AliMon611 Thank you! That is a great idea – bakery delivery. I’ll see if she has any nearby 🙂 How far along are you guys?
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Love the question. How do you recommend finding out her love language without asking her? Guess you kinda have to!
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@Tanya yes – i think it would be hard without asking her to take the quiz. I feel like you can ask her what her love language is without it coming across creepy 🙂 Just tell her that you are looking for ways to support her during the journey and this quiz is great for understanding what people value. Here’s a link to the quiz: https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language
btw – do you know your love language?
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Hi!
For our surrogate (she is local), I’ve done small things from buying her shower steamers, cozy socks, cookies, a candle and body lotion. Little items to let her know that we are always thinking about her and appreciate her so very much! I also plan on dropping her off dinner on a night that her husband is working.
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@RobinW Those are great suggestions! I struggled to find shower steamers. Where did you find some? Our surrogate has a beta next Friday, so thinking about meeting her at the clinic and bringing her some food! Thanks 🙂
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Hi,
I buy them from a local store here in our town. I just looked and you can find them online on Amazon, Bath and Body Works, and Ulta.
Our surrogate also travels a lot during the summer months. I forgot to mention that I had bought her a medication caddy.
I’m so happy that you’ve created this forum. Thank you so much for all that you do!
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@RobinW thanks so much 🙂 Will check them out. And I’m so glad you like the forum!
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This is my love language as well. In my first trimester I was very fatigued and had awful morning sickness. I could barley find the energy to cook and when I did, I struggled to handle the smells. When I went for my heart beat confirmation, my IPs showed up with a cooler full of home cooked meals that them and both their parents had made for me! It was soooo helpful!
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@Alycia.K That is freaking amazing! How many meals did they end up making for you guys? 🙂
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@Alycia.K and which ones were your faves?
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I already won’t eat anything with most cheese, nothing at all that resembles yogurt (mayo, salad dressings, dip, sour cream etc) but on top of that I had développés a super intense aversion to all meat and eggs.
They went out of their way and tweaked so many recipes to fit my super picky pallet. Favourites were: veggie lasagna, a Lebanese rice dish one of their parents made to eat with toasted pita and IM’s mom made me the best banana bread I’ve ever had!
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@Alycia.K that all sounds absolutely delicious!!!
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Maybe gift certificate to a parental massage – just encouraging her to relax and take some time for herself.
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Thank you @JamiJDeVries ! That’s definitely on my list 🙂
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Just wanted to say how sweet of you to do this <3 🙂
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