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What can I do for my surrogate during the pregnancy?
Our surrogate’s love language is “Acts of Service”. I’m trying to think of things my husband and I can do for her during the pregnancy. Already thinking about making some food. Any other thoughts?
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Coffee + Rudy’s Flower Truck Delivery!
Help with something on her To-Do List
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@surrogacyofhope They don’t deliver to her area! lol – and how did you know about Rudy’s? 😛 How do I get access to her To-Do list? Great idea tho 🙂
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I saw Rudy’s when I was visiting you! and I know it’s her fav!
Ask her if there is anything you can help her with on her to-do list 🙂
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This can be tricky depending if they are local or not. I love the idea of bringing a meal over or if they aren’t local, maybe sending cookies or some other treat. We had a scare at the end of the first trimester and our surrogate is 4 hours away so I sent her a platter of treats from a local bakery.
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@AliMon611 Thank you! That is a great idea – bakery delivery. I’ll see if she has any nearby 🙂 How far along are you guys?
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Love the question. How do you recommend finding out her love language without asking her? Guess you kinda have to!
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@Tanya yes – i think it would be hard without asking her to take the quiz. I feel like you can ask her what her love language is without it coming across creepy 🙂 Just tell her that you are looking for ways to support her during the journey and this quiz is great for understanding what people value. Here’s a link to the quiz: https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language
btw – do you know your love language?
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Hi!
For our surrogate (she is local), I’ve done small things from buying her shower steamers, cozy socks, cookies, a candle and body lotion. Little items to let her know that we are always thinking about her and appreciate her so very much! I also plan on dropping her off dinner on a night that her husband is working.
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@RobinW Those are great suggestions! I struggled to find shower steamers. Where did you find some? Our surrogate has a beta next Friday, so thinking about meeting her at the clinic and bringing her some food! Thanks 🙂
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Hi,
I buy them from a local store here in our town. I just looked and you can find them online on Amazon, Bath and Body Works, and Ulta.
Our surrogate also travels a lot during the summer months. I forgot to mention that I had bought her a medication caddy.
I’m so happy that you’ve created this forum. Thank you so much for all that you do!
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@RobinW thanks so much 🙂 Will check them out. And I’m so glad you like the forum!
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This is my love language as well. In my first trimester I was very fatigued and had awful morning sickness. I could barley find the energy to cook and when I did, I struggled to handle the smells. When I went for my heart beat confirmation, my IPs showed up with a cooler full of home cooked meals that them and both their parents had made for me! It was soooo helpful!
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@Alycia.K That is freaking amazing! How many meals did they end up making for you guys? 🙂
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@Alycia.K and which ones were your faves?
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I already won’t eat anything with most cheese, nothing at all that resembles yogurt (mayo, salad dressings, dip, sour cream etc) but on top of that I had développés a super intense aversion to all meat and eggs.
They went out of their way and tweaked so many recipes to fit my super picky pallet. Favourites were: veggie lasagna, a Lebanese rice dish one of their parents made to eat with toasted pita and IM’s mom made me the best banana bread I’ve ever had!
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@Alycia.K that all sounds absolutely delicious!!!
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Maybe gift certificate to a parental massage – just encouraging her to relax and take some time for herself.
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Thank you @JamiJDeVries ! That’s definitely on my list 🙂
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Just wanted to say how sweet of you to do this <3 🙂
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That is our surrogate’s love language also, and it’s hard because all I want is to send her gifts but she doesn’t love clutter/things! One item we found that she and her husband said they really appreciated was LittleSpoon food delivery for her children. I’m sure there are other brands that may be similar, basically it’s healthy frozen kids meals they can pull out at any time. If I were local I would also send over a babysitter I knew or offer to take her kids somewhere fun to give her a break.
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Love this idea!! Thanks for sharing!
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