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The Biggest Ask Forums For Intended Parents Social Media Shy IP’s Reply To: Social Media Shy IP’s

  • MJC

    Administrator
    July 7, 2022 at 9:32 pm

    @Danielle I think agencies exist because so many people are shy about their struggle – so you are absolutely not alone. The thing about using agencies to find surrogates is that it’s not the most efficient because each agency is constrained by their own network. It’s the most frustrating part of the whole process. I would think of this as a tradeoff – this is YOUR journey. You must do what makes you feel more comfortable. All choices come with trade-offs and maybe having to wait a bit longer for your match is the one that comes along with not going public (and that’s a maybe because you are never guaranteed a surrogate even if you are going public). And thats 100% okay! And to be honest, the norm!