The Biggest Ask Forums

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There are two major rules enforced:

  1. Be respectful
    Our aim is to be a place where intended parents and surrogates can get unbiased information about surrogacy in peace. Please refrain from judging others or criticising their choices. Our admin will follow closely and delete any disrespectful comments.
  2. Respect each other's privacy
    Being part of this community requires mutual trust. Authentic and honest discussions will make this forum amazing, but many things said might be private and sensitive.

What's shared here should stay here.

How the Forum works:

  1. Users can earn points:
    • 5 points for starting a conversation that is relevant to surrogacy (limited to one question a day users can ask more questions but they just get 5 points for one)
    • Awarding 5 points for answering a question AND getting a "like". Every additional "like" the person gets earns them 1 additional point.
    • Every week, all users are awarded 5 likes to distribute as they choose. The likes don't roll over so it's just 5 likes a week that they can distribute.
  2. Once a user earns 100 points, we get notified and you'll receive a $100 amazon gift card.
  3. Getting a certain number of points will get you the rank of "experienced surrogate" or "experienced intended parent".


The Biggest Ask Forums For Intended Parents Social Media Shy IP’s Reply To: Social Media Shy IP’s

  • Danielle

    July 12, 2022 at 8:00 pm

    Thank you so much for your response. I think I realized that for us, we are okay with certain social media posts from our agency or from organized accounts like yours, but not as comfortable with creating out own surrogacy account or tiktok. We have to be okay with not having as wide a net as someone with thousands of followers may have, but we also don’t have to deal with anonymous trolls or strangers giving unsolicited “advice” at best or spewing hate at most. Our level of exposure comes with pluses and minuses including our comfort level being honored, but a possibly longer lead time (on top of the difficulty overturning Roe will cause….sigh). But I know we have to be okay with what we do and I think sharing our story in more controlled ways through our agency, becoming a little more active in places like this and more organized accounts, and not on our own is the way to go for us. Thank you, again!