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The Biggest Ask Forums For Intended Parents Any advice for legal/contracts? Reply To: Any advice for legal/contracts?

  • Courtney

    July 20, 2022 at 4:09 pm

    Hi Kim! I’m an attorney practicing surrogacy and ART and also a mama via gestational surrogacy to a 2 year old 🙂 I can’t give specific legal advice, but I agree with MJ’s points. I would say just make it very very clear that you and/or your partner and your GC are on the same page with all of the big points before you even get to legal – termination, health and life insurance, lost wages, any specifics you want (eating organic is an example), etc. Those might be tough conversations but it’s better to handle them at the outset. Remember that your attorney works for you and even if they are using a form contract, tweaks and changes can be made for your best interest (same for your GC). I practice in Florida so if you have any Florida-specific questions, or need attorney recommendations wherever you’re located, I’m happy to help! Best of luck!!