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The Biggest Ask › Forums › For Surrogates › How do you get to know your IPs in the early days? › Reply To: How do you get to know your IPs in the early days?

  • RachEliz

    Member
    August 2, 2022 at 3:07 pm

    Early on we did some texting (about surrogacy and general life updates), then social media following, and phone calls. We were lucky to have some in-person time during medical clearance and after transfer, which was really lovely and a great way to break the ice. I am introverted, so I wasn’t necessarily looking forward to building a relationship (the process of it), but I WANTED to, if that makes sense. I knew, for me, surrogacy would be better with IPs who wanted to develop trust and camaraderie instead of thinking of it as strictly transactional. Fortunately our match is on the same page! (And it’s okay that others seek out different surrogate relationships, of course). At this stage (post transfer, + betas, pre-ultrasound), IM & I text daily and talk a couple times a week, much of it about the surrogacy process and some of it about family/life/work. I’m sure that pattern will change as the weeks go on. As I’ve wondered about potential future journeys I can’t help but feel like my IPs are a once-in-a-lifetime match… it will never be this easy/natural again 😂

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