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The Biggest Ask Forums For Intended Parents Time from match to embryo transfer? Reply To: Time from match to embryo transfer?

  • MaryJane

    August 29, 2022 at 9:24 pm

    Oh goodness, let’s see! For my first journey, we matched in February 2020 but didn’t do transfer until July because of Covid. For the second journey, we matched in September 2021 ish and had our first transfer March 2022. It can take such a long time. I would say that I would budget 2-3 weeks for the surrogate’s obgyn to transfer the paperwork to the clinic. Then another 2-3 weeks for the clinic to review the medical history. Then wait another 2 weeks for the medical clearance appointment. Then wait 2 weeks to hear back about the blood results. Then starting legal clearance – 6/8 weeks for that. During the legal clearance, perhaps she can start taking BC. I would say Embryo transfer could take place a couple weeks after contracts are signed. Whew – it’s a roller coaster ride!