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  • Danielle

    Member
    October 11, 2022 at 6:25 pm

    @hanna My Husband and I are IP’s looking for a match and we would definitely consider a profile like yours. To me your complicated first pregnancy was more a result of circumstance (Amazing twin pregnancy) and not an actual physical condition that makes all pregnancies complicated. And that seems to be backed up by your issue free subsequent pregnancies. My only issue would be if the clinic would clear you. Like MJ said, all the clinics seem to have different guidelines. I have heard of IP’s changing clinics to stick with a surrogate, but I’m not sure I’d be comfortable moving my embryos to another clinic. Also, make sure you try and stick with single embryo transfers, if you want, just for your health. The clinic may actually require this given the complicated twin pregnancy, though we all know twins could still happen.

    Maybe when you match, it would be good for the IP’s to immediately discuss your history with their clinic and see if it’s a go before going too far down the line. You probably don’t want to go through legal and everything only to find out the clinic won’t OK you to carry. That would be heartbreaking. But knowing up front, fairly soon after you find your IP’s would at least allow you and the IP’s to find other matches without losing too much time, or to formulate a different plan together without losing too much time. I hope that helps! We are still new and learning too, but I know there are other IP’s out there who wouldn’t count you out! Good Luck!