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  • Aostoff

    Moderator
    November 18, 2022 at 2:46 am

    I think some of the most important questions to ask in the early phases of matching (whether independent or not) would be:

    -What (if any) are their birthing preferences?

    -What range they feel comfortable in for base compensation, or if they are comfortable with your preferred compensation?

    -Are they comfortable with your fee schedule preferences?

    -Do they have embryos created – are they tested(if that matters to you)?

    -What fertility clinic are they working with?

    -What are their termination preferences/views? Do they match up with yours?

    -What type of relationship are they looking to have with their surrogate?

    -What level of communication are they comfortable having with their surrogate?

    -Are they comfortable with you sharing about them/the journey on social media (if that is important to you)?

    As far as telling other IPs that you have chosen to match with someone else – I think it is best to just be honest with them. Thank them for their time and for sharing their story with you, but let them know that you have found a match that you feel really good about, and that you wish them nothing but the best in finding their perfect surro! I think they will take it a lot better than you think. It’s just never an easy thing to do. But we are always here to support you!

    Sending you the best of luck in your indy search!!!! <3