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The Biggest Ask Forums For Surrogates Holiday Gifts Reply To: Holiday Gifts

  • JamiJDeVries

    November 22, 2022 at 10:48 pm

    You have so many good ideas! Wanted to share a couple gifts I did throughout our journey.

    Framed ultrasound picture that said “love at first sight”

    Big sister bandana for their dog + gender-neutral onesie that said my sibling has paws (they were pet parents)

    Gender-themed outfit after gender reveal — once they found out they were having a boy I got them a onesie that said “boys will be boys(crossed out) smart and sensitive.”

    Other ideas would be goodies from your hometown, a surrogacy journal, a fun print for the nursery (my fave says “We Made a Wish and You Came True”, fun matching t-shirts you could wear at transfer, appointments, or delivery.