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How the Forum works:

  1. Users can earn points:
    • 5 points for starting a conversation that is relevant to surrogacy (limited to one question a day users can ask more questions but they just get 5 points for one)
    • Awarding 5 points for answering a question AND getting a "like". Every additional "like" the person gets earns them 1 additional point.
    • Every week, all users are awarded 5 likes to distribute as they choose. The likes don't roll over so it's just 5 likes a week that they can distribute.
  2. Once a user earns 100 points, we get notified and you'll receive a $100 amazon gift card.
  3. Getting a certain number of points will get you the rank of "experienced surrogate" or "experienced intended parent".


The Biggest Ask Forums For Surrogates Private surrogacy for a friend? Reply To: Private surrogacy for a friend?

  • MJC

    December 18, 2022 at 2:21 am

    Hi @IdahoSurrogate – I am so sorry for the delay! I think it’s so wonderful that you are thinking about doing this for a friend! My first piece of advice is to find a surrogacy lawyer within your state. Interview a few of them – see how you feel. Make sure that you are heard and that you are treated with kindness! A good surrogacy lawyer can go such a long way in helping you out during a journey. Another source of support can be the fertility clinic that you and your IPs will use to do the embryo transfer. Sometimes the nurses and coordinators do a lot to help you through the steps.

    I don’t have any good recommendations for a consultant, but in a few months, The Biggest Ask will start offering a surrogacy program meant to support surrogates and intended parents during a journey for $99/month.