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The Biggest Ask Forums For Surrogates Feeling Stressed Reply To: Feeling Stressed

  • MJC

    January 11, 2023 at 7:11 pm

    Hi Ashley! Thank you so much for opening up and sharing your experience with us. I think so many surrogates feel the same way and I know it isn’t always easy being vulnerable. If you’re feeling up to it, I would talk to your IPs about what’s going on and tell them how you’re feeling. Being pregnant is HARD and sometimes I wonder if our brains are wired to forget how hard it is so we do it again πŸ˜› Asking for housekeeping is super reasonable and so is asking that your IPs cover the premiums that went up. No matter what type of surrogacy journey it is, surrogates should never have to pay out of pocket for anything. Therefore, any request to get reimbursed is super reasonable.

    As an intended mother, I would want to know how my surrogate is feeling and if there is anything I could be doing to make it less stressful. I would welcome the opportunity for a discussion like that and i think in the end it can make you guys even closer! Good luck πŸ™‚