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The Biggest Ask Forums For Intended Parents Anatomy Scan Question Reply To: Anatomy Scan Question

  • Maggie

    February 25, 2023 at 8:06 pm

    Hi @TKIrwin This is such a good question! We have a 5 year old and she has known our surrogate and her family for most of this process (since before our transfers and throughout my IVF journeys), but we did want to bring her to at least one of the ultrasounds! We ended up having two anatomy scans because baby wasn’t cooperative during the first. So we brought our daughter to the second one. I loved it! She was definitely bored, but she played nice for me ???? We also did a private 3D ultrasound and got to invite all the grandparents, and she enjoyed that a lot more.