The Biggest Ask Surrogacy Management Program

Using personalized support and technology to help intended parents and surrogates manage and thrive through the most meaningful journey of their lives

Celebrating 30 weeks!
Emma’s dream come true
MJ & Lauren
Photo shoot with the intended fathers

For intended parents and surrogates who have already found each other, we offer our independent journey management program (if you’re looking for a surrogate, we recommend checking out our matching posts). Surrogacy can be overwhelming with coordination, communication and follow up and filled with unexpected surprises. Navigating those surprises alone can be hard. We want to help. Here is an outline of *some* of the services we will provide throughout the surrogacy journey:

  • Obtain gestational carrier’s medical history and records

  • Background screening and criminal records search

  • Employment and medical insurance verification

  • Coordinate travel arrangements for the gestational carrier

  • Assist with developing a compensation and benefits package for the gestational carrier

  • Create a budget for the surrogacy arrangement

  • Develop a hospital plan

We tailor our packages based on your needs. Our packages range from $2,000 to $5,000. Contact us for more information. We would LOVE to help you on your journey.

What makes us stand out?

Personalized support.

Open text line and weekly consultation office hours for IPs and surrogates to get the support they need.

Custom technology

Our custom app helps us manage your journey and helps you get to know your surrogacy partner better.

Important resources

Curated milestone newsletters that educate you on what to expect at your next appointment. And more!

Why do I need this program?

Intended Parents:

Asking a woman to carry your baby is the biggest ask (no pun intended). Asking her to do it without involving a surrogacy agency – well is quite another big ask. When you request an independent journey, keep in mind that you are asking your surrogate to forgo third party support and guidance during an incredibly intimate and sometimes difficult experience. Our program resolves that issue by being that third-party support for not only your surrogate but also for you. To help seal the deal with your future surrogate, tell her that you will be using our program!


We know that you are motivated to help ease the burden of your chosen intended parents and help complete their family. The last thing you want to ask them to do is pay an extra $25,000 for the guidance and help of a surrogacy agency, but you also want to protect yourself and your family from any unforeseen circumstances and have a place for support in case something scary happens. That’s why we are here. For only $5,000 (which your IPs pay for), you, your family and your intended parents will have all the support you need for your journey. Ask your IPs to sign up for the program for that necessary support!

Who is supporting you through your journey?

MaryJane (MJ)

MJ is a mother through surrogacy and is the founder of The Biggest Ask. Leveraging her skills as a business professor, she has written a surrogacy guide, put together a surrogacy online course and now has developed this program and surrogacy app to help make beautiful surrogacy journeys possible for everyone. MJ’s mission is to make surrogacy as cost efficient and fulfilling as possible. Learn more about MJ’s story and follow her on Instagram.


Ashley is an experienced gestational surrogate and birthed twins to intended fathers in 2020. Ashley and MJ met through their mutual passion for surrogacy via Instagram in 2021 and together they have built a flourishing surrogacy community. Ashley is a stay-at-home mom and has two beautiful children, is an avid crocheter, gardener and a creative and enthusiastic DIY-er. She can do it all. Ashley is MJ’s yin to her yang and together they make the perfect team.

Why choose The Biggest Ask?

For the past 3 years, The Biggest Ask has grown our surrogacy community from 0 to 6,000 (and growing) members (come join us on Instagram). The Biggest Ask has connected with hundreds of intended parents, surrogates, and surrogacy professionals and we have become the most trusted name in surrogacy. We have made it our full time job to ask every question possible regarding surrogacy and learn all the ins and outs of the surrogacy industry in the USA.

Using this knowledge, we have created our full service program. Unlike other agencies or services that have been around for years, we have started our organization fresh, with very limited unnecessary overhead and invested in technology to pass down the savings to intended parents.

What you can expect from us

Offering The Biggest Ask Program Surrogacy Agencies
Match Surrogates and Intended Parents Yes via our matching post service Yes with frequent one-year wait times
Help screen gestational carriers Yes Yes
Discuss insurance options, lawyers and escrow Yes Yes
Give comprehensive and personalized support Yes Yes
Guide you through every milestone Yes Yes
Serve as an intermediary between intended parents and surrogates (if necessary) Yes Yes
Help with surrogate-IP bonding Yes No
Average Total Cost Per Surrogacy Up to $5,000* $25,000

* Our plans range from $2,000 to $5,000 depending on needs. Contact us for more information.

Frequently asked questions

We recommend intended parents and surrogates to join the program as soon as they are matched. However, intended parents can join as soon as they are thinking about creating embryos via IVF. There’s a lot that goes into choosing the right fertility clinic and we can start guiding parents through that entire process. Of course, intended parents and surrogates can join the program even if they are much later in their surrogacy journeys.Β 

Yes! IPs still searching for a surrogate are encouraged to join the program if they would like a low-cost option to seek consultations about how to find a surrogate or how to get started. IPs might also want to consider running a matching ad with The Biggest Ask that is posted to our community if they are looking for a surrogate. Learn more here.

Absolutely! MJ has written a surrogacy guide available for $10 on Amazon. She also offers free online videos about the process that is available to everyone. Learn more here.

MJ and Ashley also host a free support call for IPs and surrogates, separately, every Tuesday (IPs) and Wednesday (surros). Sign up here to get the zoom link (support calls are audio based).

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Join our Waitlist!

Our current program size is 10 surrogacy journeys.
Join the waitlist now for the next open spot.