The Biggest Ask Surrogacy Program

Unlocking the power of social media, we pioneer a unique approach to surrogacy that's not only affordable but also deeply personal. We honor intended parents by sharing their story with respect, bringing to light the essence of who they are. This compassionate approach not only allows us to connect with the ideal surrogate for intended parents, but it also allows us to offer our services at a significantly lower cost than traditional agencies.

Members who found their match through The Biggest Ask

Boy-girl twins!
A match made in heaven
He's finally here!
Transfer day!

At The Biggest Ask, we bring together the best of traditional surrogacy services and social media’s expansive reach. We’re here to complement your independent surrogacy journey, providing essential support without the high costs of typical agencies. Our à la carte services are tailored to your individual needs, including thorough surrogate screening, matching within our community, and ongoing guidance and support throughout your journey.

Here are our 4 main services:

Guidance and Support ($2,500): Catered to IPs and surrogates who have already matched. Through a combination of text-based communication, our customized app and virtual meetings, we offer a personalized and accessible service that guides and supports intended parents and surrogates throughout the whole pregnancy. 

Surrogacy Coordinator ($4,500): With our guidance and support package, we work only with intended parents and surrogates. In this package, we also work and coordinate with 3rd parties, including fertility clinics, escrow companies, and local monitoring clinics. Pre-screening is included in this package.

Matching + Support All-Inclusive Service ($8,000): This is our most comprehensive service. We will help our intended parents find a surrogate who meets the ASRM guidelines and provide guidance and support throughout the entire journey. This package includes our Guidance and Support service.

Surrogacy Toolkit ($150): This digital download that can be purchased here includes 1) a fillable PDF copy of screening questionnaire, that can be sent to surrogate candidates, 2) surrogacy booklet outlining all the key milestones of a surrogacy journey, 3) surrogate hospital plan and 4) two background checks that can be run on the surrogate and her partner. 

⚠️For more information about our services, download our PDF packet here.

What makes us stand out?

Personalized support

Open text line for IPs and surrogates to get the support they need no matter what time of the day.

Custom technology

Our custom app helps us manage your journey and helps you get to know your surrogacy partner better.

Our Community

Our growing surrogacy community allows us to find matches more easily. Join us on Instagram.

Already found your surrogacy partner? Here's why you still need us

Intended Parents:

Asking a woman to carry your baby is the biggest ask (no pun intended). Asking her to do it without involving a surrogacy agency – well is quite another big ask. When you request an independent journey, keep in mind that you are asking your surrogate to forgo third party support and guidance during an incredibly intimate and sometimes difficult experience. Our program resolves that issue by being that third-party support for not only your surrogate but also for you. To help seal the deal with your future surrogate, tell her that you will be using our program!


We know that you are motivated to help ease the burden of your chosen intended parents and help complete their family. The last thing you want to ask them to do is pay an extra $25,000 for the guidance and help of a surrogacy agency, but you also want to protect yourself and your family from any unforeseen circumstances and have a place for support in case something scary happens. That’s why we are here. For only $2,500 (which your IPs pay for), you, your family and your intended parents will have all the support you need for your journey. Ask your IPs to sign up for the program for that necessary support!

Who is supporting you through your journey?

MaryJane (MJ)

MJ is a mother through surrogacy and is the founder of The Biggest Ask. Leveraging her skills as a business professor, she has written a surrogacy guide, put together a surrogacy online course and now has developed this program and surrogacy app to help make beautiful surrogacy journeys possible for everyone. MJ’s mission is to make surrogacy as cost efficient and fulfilling as possible. Learn more about MJ’s story and follow her on Instagram.


Ashley is an experienced gestational surrogate and birthed twins to intended fathers in 2020. Ashley and MJ met through their mutual passion for surrogacy via Instagram in 2021 and together they have built a flourishing surrogacy community. Ashley is a stay-at-home mom and has two beautiful children, is an avid crocheter, gardener and a creative and enthusiastic DIY-er. She can do it all. Ashley is MJ’s yin to her yang and together they make the perfect team.

Why choose The Biggest Ask?

For the past 3 years, The Biggest Ask has grown our surrogacy community from 0 to 7,000 (and growing) members (come join us on Instagram). The Biggest Ask has connected with hundreds of intended parents, surrogates, and surrogacy professionals and we have become the most trusted name in surrogacy. We have made it our full time job to ask every question possible regarding surrogacy and learn all the ins and outs of the surrogacy industry in the USA.

Using this knowledge, we have created our full service program. Unlike other agencies or services that have been around for years, we have started our organization fresh, with very limited unnecessary overhead and invested in technology to pass down the savings to intended parents.

Still not convinced? Join us during our free weekly surrogacy support calls. Tuesdays are for intended parents and Wednesdays are for surrogates. 


What you can expect from us

OfferingThe Biggest Ask ProgramSurrogacy Agencies
Match Surrogates and Intended ParentsYes by leveraging our growing surrogacy communityYes with frequent one-year wait times
Help screen gestational carriersYesYes
Discuss insurance options, lawyers and escrowYesYes
Give comprehensive and personalized supportYesYes
Guide you through every milestoneYesYes
Serve as an intermediary between intended parents and surrogates (if necessary)YesYes
Help with surrogate-IP bondingYesNo
Offer a money back guarantee YesNo
Average Total Cost Per SurrogacyUp to $8,000*$35,000

* Our plans range from $2,500 to $8,000 depending on needs. Contact us for more information.

Frequently asked questions

While we are not an agency, we provide the same comprehensive services. One reason for our lower fees is our status as a boutique organization with a small team, allowing us to focus on serving only a limited number of clients at a time. Additionally, our fees are lower because we have spent years developing a vibrant surrogacy community on Instagram through free education and awareness initiatives. By leveraging this community, we are able to match our Intended Parents more effectively. Finally, we are fairly selective in which Intended Parents we work with. Since we match within our community, we can only work with Intended Parents who are willing to share their story publicly.

Absolutely! MJ has written a surrogacy guide available for $10 on Amazon. She also offers free online videos about the process that is available to everyone. Learn more here.

MJ and Ashley also host a free support call for IPs and surrogates, separately, every Tuesday (IPs) and Wednesday (surros). Sign up here to get the zoom link (support calls are audio based).

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Our current program size is 10 surrogacy journeys.
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