A & T
OUR STORY
My name is A, and I am married to the love of my life, T. From the moment we met, we knew we were forever. Whatever life brought, we would face it together—with Christ at the center of our lives. Nearly 13 years later, we are still weathering life together. But this season of growing our family has been one filled with deep pain, tears, and moments that have tested our hearts in ways we never imagined. Just when we felt there was no light left in our tunnel, God showed us otherwise. In the spring of 2020, we met our miracle—our wuma (a term I coined from Womb Mother) Through her incredible gift, our daughter Hadassah was born safely in South Carolina. She is the miracle we waited 10½ years for and a balm during seasons of profound loss! We have cherished every moment of our life with her, and are full of love, gratefulness, and hope that our family will continue to grow!
ABOUT OUR FAMILY:
We are a family that is built in faith, trust, and laughter. We’ve been through a lot, but we find the simple things in life bring us joy. Like a chicken chasing me (only in Miami), or watching our sweet girl sing at the top of her lungs in the elevator, or taking off all her clothes during TSA clearance at the airport. We love to laugh and have fun.
WHAT LED US TO SURROGACY
In 2016 we began IVF. Two cycles produced four embryos, but complications prevented fresh transfers. In 2017 we tried our first frozen transfer—it failed. Exhausted physically and emotionally, we took a break. In 2018 we tried again. That time, the miracle happened—we were pregnant. At six weeks we saw our baby’s heartbeat flicker on the screen. We believed our prayers had been answered. Two days later, we learned our son was gone. We had already dreamed of him—of his smile being just like his father’s. We named him Gaius, which means to rejoice. The following year was filled with grief, but also growth. When we prepared to try again in 2019, we received more devastating news: my endometriosis had progressed into the muscle of my uterus—stage IV adenomyosis. Doctors told us the chances of carrying a pregnancy were slim to none and warned that if the disease continued progressing, I might need a hysterectomy within two years.
After so many years of IVF, surgeries, loss, and miracles, we are now hoping to find another wuma—a woman willing to partner with us in love and generosity. Though my womb is broken, our hope is not
FAMILY TRADITIONS AND VALUES
We are Nigerian, so our food culture is important. Family and faith are integral to our family. Our way of dressing (ankara, aso oke). Even things like, we don’t have a baby shower, we have a naming ceremony. All Nigerian names have meaning, they are selected as a prayer or answer to prayer. My name, Adaeze, means first daughter of the King. Tari, means first blessing. Hadassah means compassion and also Esther 4:14. The naming ceremony is sacred and happens 7-21 days after the birth of the baby.
WHAT WE ARE LOOKING FOR IN A MATCH
We want a close relationship with our wuma. (Womb mother) We still have a close relationship with Haz’s wuma and hope to have the same with this wuma.
OUR INTERESTS
We love being outdoors, going to the farmer’s market, zoo, walks, playing in the playground, coloring, painting, planting flowers, reading.
EXTRA INFORMATION
Names: A & T
Location: Miami, FL
Number of Embryos: 1 PGS tested embryo
Agency/Management Team: The Biggest Ask
Fertility Clinic: IVF Florida Reproductive Associates
Surrogate Compensation: Medium
Requirements: Under 35 years old, ASRM Guidelines
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